Saturday, November 30, 2019

Small Business Saturday For The Shop!

Happy holidays to all! I hope everyone is able to have down time to relax and breath and take a moment to reflect for a moment. It's getting so close to the end of the year and it still feels like there is so much to do and endure so I'm hoping there is a little spark of light to be happy about for everyone. I hope to be able to bring a little bit of joy to someone who wants Butterfly or Bat Wings or even The Witch's Bonnet with a small sale.


From today until midnight, on Monday, all previously stocked Witch's Bonnets and all new commissions will receive 15% off the total purchase. This does include jewelry, as well, so if there is a design you want in a color you want to match your new pair of wings, why not add it?


Here is the terms of service to help best understand the process. If I don't get the same address from you that's in your ppal I will contact you to fix it, I don't ship out to unlisted addresses, thank you for your understanding.


The rest is very easy! Everything will be run through email, so just follow the rundown here and I will get your order together in an orderly fashion. Here are the different styles of The Witch's Bonnet, below.


Bonnet Type I (Lelloine)


Bonnet Type II (Lenore)


Bonnet Type III (Ligeia)

The last thing that one needs to do is to email: TheBloodyTeaPartysMistress@gmail.com between now and Monday and you will automatically receive 15% off. I hope to hear from you soon!

Cheers! XOXO

Saturday, November 23, 2019

What Sort Of Mediums Do You Think Promote Growth In The Community?

One of the things that keeps a community from stagnation is in how the information is spread. The sharing of how~to's, photoshoots from meetups and shared by brands, and online and hard copies of print media are excellent ways to do so. It inspires those with access to these mediums to try things out, whether it is the fashion, the tutorials for a look, or to even host their own events. This weeks Lolita Blog Carnival topic we discuss what sorts of mediums we think promote growth.

<3 Social Media Groups <3


There are a plethora of different groups that can promote growth, social media is excellent for that. The lolita fashion community has some for those learning, like Big Sisters of Lolita Fashion and Lolita Mentors, and then some slightly more niche groups like Pintucks & Lace and The Secret Garden. These online communities guide those, both new and veteran, who have a love for the frills with the help of fellow frillies.

<3 Online Zines <3



We are very lucky to have access to Kera online as most lolita fashion magazines from Japan have disappeared. This gives us photos of what designers have envisioned for certain pieces, with everything from extremely dreamy shoots to drastically stark ones. Mostly, from what I've seen as of late, they have all sorts of articles on culture, entertainment, and beauty. They even do coord snaps that are submitted by readers.

<3 Blogs/Vlogs <3

Both of these mediums are highly important to growth within the fashion, for several reasons. It gives looks into the lives of individuals who are active in the fashion. Though learning from the communities general guidelines should start from larger groups, individuals can also have just as large of an impact on inspiring growth.

Sometimes it gets us to find and latch on to little things within the community that we really enjoy. I remember really enjoying reading F Yeah! Lolita while I was starting and felt the writer really gave me a way to connect the dots on all sorts of subjects for the fashion, in regards to my own personal growth. I hope someone can look at my writing, here, and also feel this way.

<3 Mooks & Magazines <3

Can we take a minute to appreciate how cute this cover is?
10 points to anyone who can name the skirt print!

Mooks and magazines are excellent source material for promoting growth. They bring together sources from staff, brands, and contributors, usually in a physical copy, and format them for reader digestion. Many in the fashion may have grown into it with articles and snaps from the now ceased publications the Gothic Lolita Bible. In this day and age we have hard copies of Girlism, Bows, and the newest to the lineup is Just Below The Knee (JBTK) magazine.

Speaking of JBTK everyone should check them out! They have another issue coming up and the theme is punk lolita. I can't wait to see what they have in~store for the newest edition. I had missed my chance to pick up my copy at Paradiso 2019 but you can still get a copy of the first one. I'll be picking up my own copy and doing a small review on it.

Well, I believe I've summed up what and why I think these things promote growth. I hope that if you are curious about the fashion it inspires you to learn more; however, if you are a veteran and interested in blogging weekly, having your own blog, I hope you've become inspired to join us the LBC. You can learn what others have summed up in their own posts in the links below the circus!


Thursday, November 21, 2019

Release Of My New Bat Wings

When one thinks of my little indie brand a strange image probably comes to mind of witch's and morbid prints, of butterfly wings and fabric that looks as though it was covered in flowers. These wonderful things are part of my obsessions, as I like to create things and garment that are strange and unusual that fit the fashion. I tend to release a new variant on my Butterfly Winged pieces every season, from the full dress, to boleros, jackets, and then detachable wings. They are an original design, of fabric and sometimes trims, to create a silhouette that resembles the beautiful creature that is symbolic of luck and rebirth. So why not Bat wings? 


Fabric wings are exclusive to my brand's image, just as the Witch's Bonnet is completely original, debuting several years ago at a meet and the following year on the runway. You can find printed wings that are sold elsewhere, mimicking butterfly wings in a large print, but until a few months ago these were made outside the fashion. Mine are meant to mold with the style and compliment the fashion, keeping away from making them actual wings (which I'm not knocking). 


The new Bat Wings are meant to do the same but appeal to the goth or creepy cute side of the lolita. They have the bottom half of the body, a bow to mimic the points of a bat's wings, and are lined, as the Butterfly Wings are. I did a sort of soft release of them this past Halloween but figured it was going to be best to share with the world before the holidays. 

For a slightly better look.

They go for $80.00 plus shipping, as do the detachable Butterfly Wings, and can be commissioned in any color your heart desires. They are machine washable and can be lined with a different color on request (I'll be showing off one lined in a different color in a few days on the shop's Instagram, so be sure to keep an eye out!). If you are looking to order one while the shop is down you only need to email: TheBloodyTeaPartysMistress@gmail.com to start your order. 


Wings gives the look a bit of regal~ness that I thought was such a neat addition to this coordinate. It, despite being a bit OTT, has a subtle touch that you only realize the extraness to it once you turn around, which I think is appealing to many. It's sort a nice little surprise in my opinion that I think many can enjoy.

I hope you, my dear Tea Witches, also enjoy the new design and I hope that you find it lovely enough to bring it home too. Cheers! XOXO

Monday, October 21, 2019

LBC: Create A Spooky/Halloween Themed Coord

It's definitely the most wonderful time of the year! I am living (or dying) for all the fabulous and enchanting themed meets and coords going around. Sadly, I have not been able to participate in much, being bogged down in orders and work but I'm slowly pushing through. This past week for the Lolita Blog Carnival we've rolled out with a few tricks of our own, making spooky/halloween themed coords for a prompt challenge. 


It doesn't hurt that I've been participating in #frilloween2019 and have been making a coord a day based on the prompts. I did use the one for this Friday's day 18 prompt of Vampire and re~vamped a coord from this LBC prompt. I could have chosen a ton of different spooky ideas or vampires looks but I really enjoyed this one. Perhaps in the future I will do a project using other historic or cinematic vampires for the spooky month.


I remembered my handkerchief to mimic the portrait better but didn't take a very good photo with it. 


I changed out the blouse for that extra poof, though I lost the high collar I'm still happy with it. I changed the aprons out (neither were aprons), headdress, and a few other pieces that I felt also represented the look just as well.


Despite not having fx makeup, and the fact that Ezrebet Bathory was the one doing the biting, I added a little puncture marks to solidify the vampiric trope. It's silly even though the history of Bathory was never a silly story. 


Ezrebet Bathory de Ecsed has a truly horrible story behind her that gripped my imagination and attentions as a child (sorry world). Whether you believe the court transcripts from her trial or believe it was all a creation to put down a woman of power, her story is intriguing. A relative of Vlad Tepes (Vlad III Dracula) and also found in the notes of one author who wrote one of the greatest vampire stories of all time, she certainly has a legacy.


<3 Coord Rundown <3
<3 Jsk: Alice and the Pirates
<3 Blouse: Fan+Friends
<3 Collar/Apron(not an apron)/Shoes: Offbrand
<3 Socks: Meta
<3 Rosette Chain: The Bloody Tea Party
<3 Handkercheif/Necklace/Headchain: Vintage
<3 Hair Mourning Jewelry: Antique

If you would like to read and see what others have conjured up for this week's prompt you can follow the links below. If you, perchance, wish to join in on the LBC fun apply, you only need a primarily lolita fashion blog that is 3 months old, with 9 posts, and also share the prompts in English, along with your primary language. Stay spooky, frillies....




Sunday, September 29, 2019

LBC: What Are Some Things You Feel Shouldn't Be Asked Anymore

Every now and then, particularly over the summer, our dear fashion community tends to have a influx of questions that have been asked...since even before I got into the fashion. This has led to many shaking their heads, confused as to why some have not done a simple google or page search, and sometimes memes and lolita secrets posts of frustration (are there still secrets?). So, for some of us in the Lolita Blog Carnival we are sharing a list of things that do get asked that we really think should be left to the google bar, not the community en masse.

"This search bar can be your friend" ~ Momoko, Kamikaze Girls (true story)

I want to add that these are only opinions of what should not be asked anymore, they feel like they are a given, especially if you've done research. If you are trying to wear the fashion as an able~bodied individual there are very little limitations on how you can wear the fashion. This fashion has staple things that make up what lolita is: a petticoat, head piece, dress/skirt, a blouse, socks of some type, and a boat load of accessories, which differentiate it from other fashion styles.

<3 Is it wrong to have tattoos/piercings in lolita? <3

There are tons of people who are very visibly showing off their tattoos and piercings. These other forms of self expression are parts of us, even if you can remove a piercing for a few hours. They do not diminish the look unless you, if you are one with said things, aren't feeling it that day. This fashion is not a strict job that you may get your piercing stuck on equipment (the only valid reason to remove jewelry).

<3 Do I have to wear a petticoat? <3


It's a part of what makes the fashion's very specific silhouette and has been asked almost every summer, so it's not difficult to search and find TONS of posts for. 

<3 Do I have to wear a lolita blouse/bolero/cutsew? <3

Weather is the only other exception.


If someone, who had already grasped the basics of the fashion, were to ask for a specific coord and were trying something like ero it would be the only valid time to ask. There are some exceptions but it's a general 'it's part of the fashion' that somehow still gets asked.

<3 Is it wrong to sew pieces for my wardrobe? <3


Join us!

This question could be searched through google and then ping several different fb groups dedicated to sewing the fashion. This is one, Pintucks & Lace.

<3 Can you wear ::insert item or device required for living a functioning life:: in lolita? <3

I feel like most people who ask this question are either being bullied into thinking they can't participate or are people trying to stir up a ruckus. 


<3 Has anyone heard of ::insert cover store for Milanoo here::? Are they safe to shop? <3


This one always seems hardest to navigate because sometimes people find it from the internet and don't think to look on any saved lists, or the name may have changed. Milanoo fronts have been infuriating the community for ages, in different forms, and wont let up any time soon. I do think these sort of questions shouldn't be asked anymore but I can understand the occasional slip.

<3 Are replicas okay? <3
Taken from Hae Nuli's fb page.

No.

But to put words behind my resounding 'no'...This fashion is seen as a means of self~expression and creativity, there are those pushing the envelope every day to make this fashion more lovely and intriguing. There are prints that people work painstakingly long hours on, there are those who try to come out with new designs that meet the style with a little dash of their own personality, stealing their ideas is art theft. This community tends to close ranks on those who try to steal other people's ideas, which I think is good. 

True, there are things that are close in style for dresses, there are only so many ways to cut a piece of fabric to make a garment, but it's different if you are making it exactly the same. That not only hurts the designers but staunches creativity. 


This fiasco was a nightmare! I even remember their staff grabbing at my dress and inspecting it when I told them it was handmade, the year prior to this incident. I'm glad they didn't get a hold of my designs.
I know that people may say that it may not be fair for people in different life positions but there are other ways to go about it. There are so many wonderful things in this fashion, different designers at different prices, sizes, colors, cuts, find things on the cheap on Lacemarket or sales pages, and you can even sew your own pieces so it befuddles me as to why someone would stunt themselves over one garment or specialty item.

To harp on, this community has been frowning on replicas for a very long time, this is not a new concept. It doesn't take that much to google, or search the group, to see that it's been discussed at length.

To long, didn't want to read: there is no excuse and this shouldn't be asked. 

<3 Is there an age limit to wear this fashion? <3


Anyone can wear this fashion.


Fashion does not have an age limit to it, it’s not a kiddy ride. There are so many active wearers of the fashion of different ages that this answer should be obvious. People who truly enjoy the things they love grow with them, we morph and bloom, and it's beautiful.

Thankfully, these days, we have to tell people that these sorts of questions are best left to Big Sisters of Lolita Fashion as the RC mods have made all posts require approval. It seems that we will have less easily questions answered, and a lot of the new RC questions have been really nice discussion promoting questions or ones about personal experiences, which are rather enjoyable. Hopefully, this trend will continue on. If you wish to find out more about the Lolita Blog Carnival you can check out our facebook page, here

Wednesday, September 25, 2019

LBC: Share Your Top 5 Wishlist Items & What Draws You To Them

Most everyone has a top five wishlist in this fashion, pieces that they would throw down their wallets for. It’s one of the interesting facets of this fashion that, no matter where you are from or what brand, there are certain pieces or dresses that speak to you on a magical level. This week on the Lolita Blog Carnival we discussed what pieces were at the top of our own lists.

Metamorphose - Magical Artifact jsk


This was SO on point for me. This cat looks like my fuzzy baby, Moo, and I need this jsk so badly. I do want it in the red but...I may cave if I don’t see it soon and get the green colorway but I can’t help wanting the red. There isn’t a thing I don’t love about this particular print though, everything is great and my goth side of my aesthetic.

Metamorphose - Secret Laboratory jsk/long jsk/op


We all know I have been hunting for this dress since it came out. I missed the reservation, and then it was in the wind! I have never, not once, seen this print in the red colorway and it drives me bonkers...pray for me...

Alice and the Pirates - Night in the Devil’s Castle jsk I


 This print is the fairytale that speaks to my heart the most, even though it’s not a fairytale at all. Give me maidens spirited away by otherworldly beings any day and I will be a very happy Hatter. I like the print on it’s own but why I enjoy this particular cut is the large bow neckline, giving it a sweetheart cut and being printed on with flowers. I like this particular colorway because it’s very sharp and slightly blood moon like. Hopefully one day it will be in my wardrobe.

Triple Fortune - Victorian Violets


 I know what you’re all thinking, ‘Madeline...this is neither red nor a witchy print...” but the thing is...is that I love flowers and flower language and this is one of the main reasons I love 3F pieces so much. They are covered in flowers and sometimes scrolling notes and butterflies, another favorite. This dress has had me looking high and low for years and I regret not buying it when it was at Rufflecon but I was a little distracted and didn’t even get to see it.

Alice and the Pirates - Black Cat, Witch, & the Apple Tree jsk II


And, of course, the ghost with the most, Black Cat, Witch, & The Apple Tree jsk II, from Alice and the Pirates. I simply adore this print! I have it in the ivory after two friends of mine pointed it out and on the Usagi Youhinten website before it’s shop went out of business and I was so happy with it. It is one that I wouldn’t mind catching all the colorways but the red is what I’m after in my heart. It’s so vibrant, without being jarring, and the details of the print are great, the neckline is something I really enjoyed about this series as well, the triple ruffle adding a nice accent.
Most of my wants are almost all in the red colorways of the series, there’s just something about them. If someone were ever to release a crimson colorway for a butterfly jsk I would be very much putting that on this top five wishlist. Also most of mine are witchy prints. Even in my own indie brand I have been working on mostly witchy or occult vibe prints because it’s the jam to my scone and cream.

What are some of your wishlist items?

If you would like to check out what others have on their own wishlists then check out the links below. (And if you are looking to rid yourself of any of these pieces I will shameless suggest you drop a line in my inbox. XD Cheers!)





Monday, September 16, 2019

LBC: Create A Coord Based On A Book

If there is one thing I love just as much as frills and tea is books and stories. I can easily forget the world and delve into any, for hours if I'm not careful. Lately, I've been having this issue of losing myself but in writing the pages of my own story. It's not something I ever thought I would be doing but here I am. For this weeks Lolita Blog Carnival we're creating coords inspired by books and so I am very excited for it. It's always so difficult for me to choose when it comes to these types of topics so I went with my gut instinct. The last time I did this I did a coord based on the book The Canterville Ghost, by Oscar Wilde, one of my all time favorites.


I decided to go with basing it on The Butterfly Garden, by Dot Hutchison, something I stumbled on by accident a few years ago. It's a very good thriller that sort of starts off at the end, finding one of the "butterflies" that had been abducted to the garden, by the Gardner, being questioned by police. They have her go over how she ended up there, what it was like, and who the Gardner was and what he would do to them. The people who are turned into butterflies are tattooed with these intricately detailed tattoos and given a new namesake.


<3 Coord Rundown <3

<3 Jsk/Headdress/Butterfly Necklace (Worn on shoulders, in back): The Bloody Tea Party
<3 Underskirt: Triple Fortune
<3 Blouse/Shoes/Necklace: Offbrand
<3 Rings: Vintage, Offbrand
<3 OTKs: American Duchess


The story is well written and very dark as the main character talks of her time in the garden. She doesn't gloss over how they were kept in a big domed "paradise" of a lush garden, had everything about their new life maintained to keep up this one image of beauty. It's spin~chilling and upsetting and intense and can be difficult to handle for a laundry list of reasons. The moment a butterfly reached a certain age, couldn't fit in, whether through a disobedient behavior or get her own body to meet the demands of the Gardner, or couldn't dissociate themselves from their reality enough to put on the airs of living "a wonderful life" the Gardner would murder them and encapsulate them in the glass corridor. 


Despite how intense this book may be, for all the horrible reasons, I do suggest picking it up. The main character, Maya, is a very intriguing person that takes the reader through how she and the others with her pushed through. It had a very realistic monster, a man who thought he was their caregiver and some sort of savior, not seeing himself for what he truly was.


Everything in this coordinate is about butterflies, with the print, necklace, and headdress and I tried to add wing~like imagery anywhere I could. I used one of my indie brand's newest Butterfly jsks paired with a lightweight black top, giving it a little bit of a gossamer look. Since I do need more ruffles to this jsk I used a Triple Fortune skirt with just enough ruffles for the bottom. The other little detail I added was pinning a butterfly necklace to the back of the dress to add another butterfly but also give another dimension.

Since the butterflies were tattooed with very large wings I thought this particular piece would be appropriate for this book. It also reminds me a bit of a scene in the book where Maya convinces their abductor to let them put on a play, A Midsummer Night's Dream. She said it was to boost morale and help the newest abductee fit in but it had other purposes for the story that I wont spoil, you will have to read the book to find out more.

If you are curious about what other bloggers have written on this weeks topic feel free to check them out in the links below! 

Friday, June 14, 2019

LBC:Create A Coord To Best Fit The Season

The weather is certainly changing again and it's time to adjust our wardrobes and daily wear to best fit the season. And as it is such a huge factor in how we arrange ourselves for whatever the season brings we've decided, with the Lolita Blog Carnival, to create a coord that best worked for us. As the seasons are a bit different for everyone - some of us are experiencing something other than Summer - we went with seasons as a blanket term to be more inclusive.

Over in my neck of the woods I am definitely getting into the summer months. It's hot, thankfully it hasn't been muggy (yet), and I am desperately in need of lighter layers. I've prepared a coord that is light and airy and offers shade as well.


Jsk/Pin: The Bloody Tea Party
Hat/Necklace: Vintage
Socks/Shoes/Blouse: Offbrand
Floral Headdress: Sweet Mildred

I wanted flowers everywhere and the print of this fabric has lovely vibrant ones that I paired with a Sweet Mildred headdress, that I've attached to the hat. The dress is such a rich dark green that reminds me of the summer months where everything is vibrant and alive. For the shirt I actually paired it with this strange little blouse that I bought in an emergency while I was snowed in in NYC during Tokyo Rebel's closing party. I've worn it in a few coords (like my recent Paradiso Day 1 coord that I'll share in a post later) and I've found myself rather pleased with it. 

Everything about this coord is about short sleeves, lightweight ankle socks, and a hat to help keep the sun of. The other factor, as mentioned before, was flowers that I also utilized in the jewelry too. The necklace has a little leafy pattern and I added a music scroll floral piece. All in all I'd say this represents and fits the season really well.

If you are interested in what the other's who participated in this put together you can check them out here:





Sunday, June 9, 2019

LBC: What Makes You Excited About Lolita Fashion

For every lolita wearer there is something that gives them life! in a sense. This fashion is something that those of us who participate in it do truly enjoy, otherwise we would not wear it (though I know there are people who enjoy it without being able to for various reasons). We decided to take a look as a group to ask ourselves what made us excited about the fashion, personally for the Lolita Blog Carnival.

In actuality this fashion is a very personal experience for each of us and so the things that make us excited and enjoy wearing the fashion will be vastly different. These garments have amazing details, designs that call to us, and cuts that we like that can be a pretty wonderful package. When we see our favorite pieces put together by designers or on fellow frillies Instagram pages it can also add to the hype around it.

There are, naturally, other things that can spark that little light of joy that isn't the clothes at all but related through them. We've been able to gather and make personal friends from this, host lovely events to some we travel a ways for, and even the ability to meet the designers behind the pieces we hold dear. There are so many slivers to this fashion that can, and does, make one excited about it. For me there are several things that have definitely made me all the more excited about the fashion.

<3 Opening My Closet <3



To some this may seem like a strange thing to say but I get this little rush of joy seeing my closet space lined up with the amazing pieces I've collected over the years. Each piece holds a dear place in my heart and sometimes it takes me a moment to realize such things exist. Opening my closet is definitely something that makes me excited to start my day.

<3 Summer Releases <3


At around this time of year there is one thing that gets me excited in particular; Aatp and Btssb Halloween themed releases! I do enjoy what comes out of AP as well but time and time again I learn that the cuts are just not for me but I do enjoy seeing them. 

Pieces like Merry Making in the Ghost Town, Rosy's Night Masquerade, and Sweet Mate Kumya~chan's Trick Or Treat (Probably my sweetest piece I own in the wine colorway) all make my day with their Halloween themes. Aside from Halloween and Autumn, it's the most wonderful time of the year to me!

<3 Large Events <3


This fashion has really made something special out of large events that have people coming together from near and far. It amazes me how people will travel out of our shared love and also be able to meet friend's we've gained who happen to be from other countries.


I recently got to do this on my trip to Paradiso and see a few friends that I don't get to see often from all over the world. As this is currently the US's only jfashion event it means a lot to have our own space separate from other things like cosplay and comics and so many flocked to enjoy the weekend and enjoy our favorite clothes. 


Some events even get to have the pleasure of hosting guest designers and our favorite brands. This is something special that I know I'm not the only one to get excited about as it's neat to be able to meet the wonderful people who work hard to make our favorite pieces. 

<3 The Content Made By Community Members <3

This may sound a bit like people who make their own indie brands but I'm talking about content like Last Week Lolita News and vlogs, lolita fashion blogs, webzines, and comics and books. This is the content that we can all take home and enjoy on our own, at our own pace.Publications like So Pretty/Very Rotten really hit home for me as someone who has been in the fashion for a long time. 

One project I'm excited to see produced is a lolita fashion magazine, Frills without Borders. It is content made for and by lolita wearers and the submissions can be anything from DIY tutorials, coord shots, meet up photos that can include candids, flatlays and whatever you can think of that you did while wearing the fashion. I've got a few things slated to submit and hope they get accepted.

<3 Being Able To Laz About However I Want In Frills <3



Everyone enjoys their days off or time down in their own way, I get excited to go about my free days in frills. I take the time to plate things all pretty and have tea, sew, my piano and just do it all dressed to the nines and go about my business. 

So these things definitely excite me when it comes to lolita fashion it's not all about the wardrobe pieces but they are a bit of a gateway to many wonderful things. I hope there is something that brings you the joy and excitement that this fashion brings me. And if you'd like to see what does for other people you can check out their posts about it in the links below!