Thursday, December 28, 2017

LBC: Things You Have Learned About Yourself In The Fashion This Year

This past year has had some major ups and some major downs for me. Some of them have been extremely productive, whether positive or negative experiences, as I’ve taken what I’ve learned from them and figured out what made them so and how to enhance or prevent things from going awry.

I've experienced what it was like to run my own table at a growing Megameet held by members of my local comm. It was far more enjoyable than I had initially thought but I still know that if it was beyond a dealers' room I would still wish to have either a table mate or someone to be my frilly booth babe. Pairing with someone else simply made things far more enjoyable for me but I know that I can manage on my own and do well.

For Rufflecon 2017, my friend's at Atelier Sucre were stellar and we split a table at which the sold my product for me and I would pop in every now and then throughout the day, when I had a chance. The experience just further proved that I prefer things that way at larger events.

I've also discovered over this past year that lists and marking things down is still everything for me. I find that I'm more productive and concise if I write out things I need to do, or things I’ve done for my shop to be logged and inventoried. I've found this habit of putting pen to paper, or typed into phone notepads, really kept me on the ball. It also helps when I’m plotting coords for fashion shows and future meets to write down options of things I’d like to wear. It’s kind of fun to do for more then just come but I find it also clears my head if I can’t choose between a few different looks and have time to  play around.

Prior to RC2017 I have only done minor inventories for things sent to the Lolita Collective because I hadn’t made very much stock, due to very limited space and never running a table. This, however, changed shortly before RC, as I made 109 pieces for the table, it really helped me realize I needed to do so for every piece and catalogue style and color, and log where they are.

This year I did manage to start into getting several more blouses in several styles in whites and creams. I’m still looking for more in black but I seem to have lucked out in the other two colors I find that I usually gravitate to more. I also learned that I really do tend to favor princess sleeves for meets, so having more of a variety of bell and princess in the same color is something I’m beginning to do. This, of course, means I need to shop for more blouses.

This year was also a year of hard truths for me; I do need to sell some things to keep my wardrobe space an actual functioning space if I wish to buy more and store some pieces that I make properly. I wish I could ignore it, I wish I had space to properly store boxes or drawers of frills, it’s just not a viable option. So the goal is to sell what I’ve feel doesn’t quite suit me or fit me as well as I’d like. (Plan on really selling things at low prices at the consignment mini-megameet in January, fingers cross what I wish to does sell.)

One of the other things I’ve discovered is that I have a habit of favoring certain jewelry. I really enjoy jewelry and have quite a bit from antique, vintage, to handmade but I find that sometimes I wear some by default and don’t switch it up as often. I definitely need to actively change things up with certain pieces.

So, I feel as though I’ve discovered a bit about myself in the fashion particularly about my style and then a bit more about my brand. I’ve learned that I need a bit more patient with myself and try out a few more combinations with my wardrobe and not be too comfortable with one look.

If you’re interested in reading what other people wrote about themselves you can check their blog posts out in the links below! If you would like to join in on the logging fun or learn more about the Lolita Blog Carnival you can also check out what it’s all about in the link, here.

Friday, December 22, 2017

LBC: What Are Your Lolita New Years Resolutions

With each new year comes new promises to one's self, they are sometimes small goals like switches in a morning routine or they can be huge projects like changing up a wardrobe, organizing and overhauling. Most everyone makes these little plans and try to stick to them, hoping to better their lifestyle, which takes a lot of energy and determination. For this topic for the LBC we've chosen to go over what our personal goals are.

Focus On My Brand

The Bloody Tea Party has been an idea near and dear to me since shortly after involving myself in the fashion. I've worked on my style, paid attention to the rules, and worked on my sewing and crafting skills tirelessly to streamline my pieces. It has been a exciting journey and I've been finding it as something I have loved as much as I had hoped. I get thoroughly ecstatic every time someone buys a piece I've worked so hard to create.

My plan this year is to really focus on my product and better ways to present them, with better shots and lighting techniques, I've work really hard on making these things that I really love so I feel as though my photos are not doing them justice. I've finally finished my watermark to put in picture corners that don't detract from the image and still ensure you know the shops name, now I need to work on better pictures for it.

Have another Season of The Witch Bonnet reservation period. I enjoyed doing this so much and I feel like the first one this past year was a success, this coming year I'd like to better advertise it and maybe give a week more but with the same reserve spots.

Create more product. This year I had made a TON of beaded pieces for the shop for the events I had a table for, or shared tables for, so I want to keep up with that but also focus on garments and Witch Bonnets.

Reserves and New Prints

This past year I've also finished and put out my first original print. at some point in the beginning of next year a goal is to make it available for reservation. It took my a very long time to create it, from drawing it out (I'm not an artist), learn photoshop while I work on redrawing it out in the program, and get it uploaded to the printing company. It took me so long my goal is not only to make a reserve period for it in the new year but to also make out one of my next prints in a shorter time, now that I have learned a lot for the program. I have at least 3 prints that I've drawn out completely and I don't want to rush any of the lot, I want them to be even better then my Homunculi print.

Host More Meets

I didn't get to host many meet ups this year, I'd really wanted to do another Frills & Chills but it seemed this past year was a bust due to timing with working on my line for Rufflecon. The other meet I would like to try to do is to do my Exhibition du Fioritures, where everyone with a talent or fashion line can show off their skills. I do have all my previous notes, my schedule blocks to be filled planned out, the gift bags already planned, all that's needed is a venue with access to a piano and good food. 

Better Posing And Work On My Facial Features

Queen of derp! That pretty much sums up my face as I try hard to relax and make my face not look like I've pulled a muscle in my cheeks and open my eyes wider so that they don't look like I'm between blinks or falling asleep - the curse of family genes. I just want my features to be softer and more relaxed, is all. 

As for posing, I often find I stand weirdly causing my shoulders to hunch and sometimes my hands don't know what they're doing. I just think that I should maybe look at what other people do for posing and practice them a bit more, focusing on better posture for my own sake, in a mirror, so that my default pose doesn't obscure what I'm wearing so much or make me look as awkward. 

 Find Specific Items On My Wishlist

I have dreams and goals and they are for very specific wardrobe pieces! I really wish to focus on finding specific garments on my wishlist for a reasonable price. Things definitely like Secret Laboratory or Night of the Devil's Castle are on my radar, along with a few other pieces that haven't left my list since I first wanted them. We'll see how this year pans out.

Wardrobe Overhaul And Wardrobe Post

It's almost that time of year again where every frilly takes super cute pictures of their wardrobe, in cute and meticulously organized ways, and I need to get in on that. I only got through barely halfway last year and, due to time, had to put it on the back burner. I'm going to commit myself this year and find a way of doing it that suits me.

This will also, hopefully, show where I am in my collection and point me in the direction I want to go with it, not necessarily selling off what doesn't work for me. I can count only a handful of times I've actually sold of pieces I've bought and it had to involve fit every time, it's never been about whether I wear it as I wear daily and circulate through. Right now, however, there have been a few piece niggling away at my thoughts that I should get rid of. I'm hoping that the wardrobe posting process will also make me know if it's really time to let some pieces go.

Lolita Inspired Book

I've been wanting to do write a Lolita inspired book. Something similar in nature to the fairy tale like stories we'd often seen in GLB but obviously not drawn out. I have an idea and have been slowly plotting it out and trying to write a few snippets. Hopefully, many will find it entertaining and bewitching but the goal for now is to try to write it out and have a few personal friends read the first rendition of it. 

I do know a lot of goals will change over the year, though I think they will adapt however necessary instead of be lost in the back of my brain. I'll have to check back in a year and see if I held tight, please root for me!

If you're interesting in learning more about the Lolita Blog Carnival you can check them out in the link, here. And if you want to see what other people have up for their resolutions check them out in their links below!

Friday, December 15, 2017

LBC: 5 Regrets: List 5 Pieces You Regret Not Buying When You Had The Chance

There is so much to see, wear, and enjoy in this fashion as a whole, but there will always be the woes of missed opportunities when it comes to certain pieces for many, if not all, of us. Whether from lack of funds, learning of a release too late, or, in earlier times, the inability to get a shopping service, there are many reasons we sometimes miss out on pieces we really adore. This week's prompt for the Lolita Blog Carnival is about just that.

The ones on my list are all more recent pieces, lately I've manage to acquire a great deal of my wishlist (including Aatp's Tea Time Nostalgia!!! AAAAHHHHHH!!!) so this list will only include those which I'm not in possession of.

AatP Fortune Teller Box

I had seen this one go up, and unfortunately I had already just splurged on my birthday purchase and had other major purchases to make for the shop. 

Meta Secret Laboratory

This was another one released shortly before my birthday, I actually was hoping that it would stick around for that time, but it was also around the time we moved and it really threw a wrench in the works for my memory. I wish I had remember it...I just want to put it with a super cute witchy blouse with long billowy sleeves and then pair it with a black and red witch bonnet. 

Triple Fortune Victorian Violets jsk

Last year, at Rufflecon, Triple Fortune had this jsk available and I really had my eye out for it. unfortunately I just wasn't quick enough the following day to pick this one out.

Aatp Cock Robin jsk

This one I regret not buying so much! I had saved up for it for a while but was convinced to go with something else in the end...

IW Birdcage jsk

Again, it was around my birthday but I had several options to choose from but I went with something else. I haven't quite found it in the cut or color I've wanted so I'm just going to keep an eye out for this one.

This weeks was a tough one for me, I'm trying not to scroll through the sales pages after putting this all together...I may also be lying that I'm not doing that right now....

If you want to see what other people who joined in on this prompt have wrote down for 5 of theirs' be sure to check out their posts in the links below. And if you want to learn more, and possibly join, the Lolita Blog Carnival feel free to look us up.

Thursday, December 14, 2017

New Acquisitions And Refashioning

Things have obviously been going down in my life, I recently walked my line, which was my first original print and a new butterfly jacket design, at Rufflecon for the fashion show for 2017, bought some long looked for pieces, and have been heading to the point that I calloused my hands in only two weeks, back in October. I’ve been working hard with not only those but witch bonnet commissions and prepping for another big project that I don’t actually know how I’m functioning, if I’m being honest.

Most things I’ve posted on my personal Facebook and Instagram if anyone actually follows there, so it’s been clear that I’ve been neglecting my writing lately. However, I’m endeavoring to make a moment to do so as I want to keep pursuing this. I do enjoy writing, endeavoring to do it better, and hopefully create decent content for any frilly looking to simply enjoy snippets.

And that’s really what today is, a snippet.

Recently, I’ve acquired a few things, as I mentioned before, mostly dresses, of course, and I actually did some cyber Monday shopping. One of the things I’d like to take a moment to write about today has been a passion of mine since I was a child (a very weird child), which are these amazing Victorian mourning lockets!

Circa 1880-1910
These two tiny pieces are very sweet and pretty, though a little dinged up over time - the hair for the oval is missing and the heart's acetate paper is broken - but I definitely thought they were a steal for the price they were listed at. I knew that they would need a little love and finesse, when it came to restoring and refashioning these two, but I was ready for it. I started off with cleaning them up a bit, I still need to pick up the paper and plan to redo the lock of hair into it's curl before sealing it back in safely, but this is how they look at the moment.

I took a bit of inspiration from different Victorian mourning jewelry I've seen in the past, I don't know why I decided to have then as long as they both are but that's how it felt best. Usually lockets would be placed on a simple ribbon or black cord, though it's not the only way to wear them, and that would be that.

Just to show length
I went even longer then I'm used to for my own personally necklaces and tried to use vintage and antique beads I've had hanging around for special personally projects. The jet bead with the scroll work is a Victorian era piece and the larger jet beads are all vintage pieces I just got as a gift from my mother. I think I did okay and that it evokes a Victorian feel to each necklace, it's just a small adaptation, nothing more.

Though the silver and copper locket is a bit tarnished and is missing very important pieces I find that I like it more then I had initially. The forget-me-not flowers embedded in the long palms - they definitely look like leaves or feathers here - plated in sterling silver carved into a copper background is simply lovely. I just really like it more in person then I had when seeing it in the listing, it worked out in my favor that it was paired with the heart for the sale.

This was the piece that caught my eye so quickly, it's even more beautiful in person! Again, it is engraved with forget-me-not flowers, which are very prominent in mourning jewelry and is always the give-away if you aren't sure if it's just a memorial piece or a token of love, and more palms pair with them, encircling the hearts edge. This locket also opens from the opposite side as that's very common in Victorian jewelry. Because there were so many flowers in the detailing I wanted to reflect that in my beads, using rose beads and a lily bead to suspend the heart from without overpowering it with either a solid jet or gold bead.

I can't wait to wear them once I've redone the acetate on the heart, these pieces already have their own places to carefully store them amongst the other mourning pieces I have. I think that mourning jewelry is something to take care with, they can't be worn without one actually wondering who it was intended for or who's hair is encapsulated within it, but I have and will wear them in the future. 

Do you have any mourning jewelry you enjoy? Are you curious as to whether or not you possess a piece? 

I think I've rambled enough this morning and need to get back to my sewing table, I'll have new updates soon that I hope you'll enjoy! I've had a lot brewing since Rufflecon, besides the pot of tea, of course. 

So start your own cup as it's a good day to cuddle up with a cup of lovely tea. Cheers! 

Saturday, December 9, 2017

LBC: What Are 5 Things You Would Tell A Beginner Not To Do Or Avoid

Lolita fashion, there are so many things to keep in mind when navigating the different nuances of it. Some things turn into sweet little traps that drain time, energy, money, and sometimes even self esteem when you feel like you’ve tried it a few times but don’t think it looks quite as cute as you thought. Here are some things that hopefully help you avoid these instances.

Try To Avoid Super Niche Trends, Focus On Making Solid Coords

To often I see newer people get over excited with trends in the fashion, making them jump head long into things due to their wow factor, without appreciating the base clothes for what they are. This usually leads to people dishing out more money for an already expensive style only to end up trying it and not being satisfied with how it looks on or not understanding the basics of the fashion to understand the dynamics with the piece (ex. Bunny/cat ears).

Focus On Staple Pieces That Can Be Built Upon, Avoid Buying Only Main Pieces

This follows along along with the first one but it’s extremely important. This can mean buying up blouses that can work with classic, gothic, and sweet, or getting a nice solid op or jsk that can be fashioned for a more gothic look one day and then a classic look for another, making it easy further down the road to figure out exactly what styles you like and find suit you more.

Shoes are another great staple people tend to overlook when starting off in this fashion. Finding a few pairs that can work with several different main pieces makes coordinating a dream! Simply put, don’t overlook.

Jump Into The Group Discussions, Avoid Being To Much Of A Wallflower

This one may seem terrifying but the online comm is fun. There are so many wonderful people I have met on the online groups it’s a shame not to try. People are generally friendly - unless you are doing something to instigate - and helpful when asked about certain things or when something new and intriguing comes along.

This also aides in building a support system of like minded individuals who appreciate the fashion, know what you will be going through, and can help orient yourself.

Don’t Avoid Budgeting In The Beginning

Yes, this one is tough even for seasoned frillies, we see a bargain and we go in for the kill. Sometimes our wallets are the ones that suffer and that’s not always in a good funny way. I highly suggest starting a budget, don’t avoid it even if you are only testing the waters.

It’s especially good if you know your favorite brand’s rough release schedule so you can budget for it. Personally, I do this around August when I’m on the look out for Btssb’s and Aatp’s newest Halloween prints, or I do this when I know I’m going to a con.

The only real thing to avoid when budgeting is sites like lacemarket and your favorite brand, when planning on waiting for a release.

I feel like I may have run on with this one. I’ve been like a fish out of water with a lot of my previous habits, hopefully I can get back into it soon as I do enjoy it.

Avoid OTT Styles Until Grasping Basics

This one kind of goes hand in hand with avoiding trends, if you don’t have the basics down you should avoid any attempt at OTT (over the top) coords until you have it. If you don’t even know the difference between most of the terminologies that are in the fashion it’s not advised to try.

In case you want to see what other frillies think on the subject you can check them all out here:

Friday, October 6, 2017

LBC: Odd Habits Of The Fashion

The EGL fashion has been a rather large part of my life. I've kind of molded into it over the last decade or so due to a plethora of reasons. It fits my personal aesthetic preferences, hobbies, and habits for the most part which is why I feel more attuned to a lifestyler than most would, I suppose. Though this may be the case for me, and has been so for many years, there are still things that are glaringly different than in most other fashions. This week we decided to discuss a few of them in this week's Lolita Blog Carnival topic.

People Catalogue And Documenting Their Closets

Personally, I love this habit. I do find it odd but I enjoy making lists and logs of colorways, year, style numbers, and names of the pieces I own and seeing everyone else do similar lists. Wardrobe posts every January are something I greatly look forward to, though I need to work on mine and really commit to trying to make a post.

Outfit Shots And Rundowns

Whether it's laying out, on a mannequin, or on a body with a blurred out face, I feel like this is a habit that's fairly unique to EGL fashion. I know that there isn't a frilly who doesn't enjoy seeing someone's meticulously planned coordinate laid out in a pic, with all the little detail shots, but I don't think there are many other fashion groups that do this (I could be wrong! I don't generally subscribe to other fashion groups.)

Large Scale Meets For No Particular Reason

You know you've been to one or two major meets with more then half your comm in attendance, sometimes planned out to have seating arrangements even. But the wonderful part about it is there may not even be a reason at all as to why there is a Meet in the first place and not a reason, either, for why it may be so big. 

Creative Stand-Out Pieces

This fashion strives for creativity, there are so many things that one can do as long as they stay within the guidelines of the fashion and keep that certain silhouette. I love a lot of the OTT looks and the sometimes intense headgear and accessory pieces people can produce. I know sometimes people can think it can get a little out of hand but I truly love it. 

People Taking Pictures With And Without Permission

No matter how many times I get asked or see this I will always find it weird and unsettling. This may be due to my upbringing, being taught to be a little weary of people taking pictures, but even still I could never wrap my head around why strangers want to take someone's picture they don't know. I feel like those who also dress goth or steampunk must get this a lot as well. 

All in all, the odd little habits of this fashion fascinate me. I think a lot of fun and interesting things do come out of the fashion that make it a bit more fun. I'm sure there are many more but these are the few I could come up with. Now I'm off to have a quick cup of soothing tea before bed and hope you have a goodnight too. (I highly recommend a Lavender chamomile blend!) 

If you want to read a little more about what others think of the fashion you can check it their pages in the links below.

Friday, September 22, 2017

LBC: Difficult Things To Deal With In The Fashion

There are so many things that I love about this fashion, it's intriguing, it has so many little facets that one could get wrapped up in the for hours. However, there are also little downfalls even amidst all the highs of the fashion. Some are trivial and some are functional issues, it also depends from person to person, which is what we are discussing for this week's Lolita Blog Carnival. These are some bits I've gleaned from others and some which I have experienced myself, my biggest being:

Not Enough Storage Space

This is one I find many a frilly has to deal with. My situation is from moving from a house with 1 closet, wall rack full of dresses, and several drawers to one closet rack (which is thankfully a walking closet) and a few drawers in an apartment. We do plan to move to a house again someday but right now we have very limited space. I try not to buy anything unless it's a super good deal or dream dress status pieces. It has made me think more about efficiency and what pieces are important enough to splurge on.

Not Having Enough Filler Pieces

With every new piece I look into I try to see how it fits in with my wardrobe and if I can coordinate it  well with different blouses, jewelry, and head pieces in my wardrobe. That being said, sometimes I feel as though I'm lacking in those sorts of pieces. 

Trying To Be An Active Member Of The Community

This is a very difficult one for me as I want to engage with others and enjoy the conversation but then I go to write or connect with someone on one of the different social media platforms we have and my mind goes blank. It's very much like getting tongue tied but it's my fingers that are in knots. This is not just with the international community but my own local ones, as well. I feel like maybe I second guess myself?...

Parting With Pieces

This is a recent development for me, with the loss of space it has become more and more obvious that I do need to downsize just a tad. I don't know how anyone else does it but it's difficult for me. I know they are really only pieces but I've worked hard to get them, they make me happy just being able to look at all the different little details that parting with them is a little difficult. It's also a tad bit difficult because I wear everything I have. I've lucked out that there have only ever been maybe 4-5 pieces that haven't fit my body though now a days I've been debating more and more what fits my preferences and style (lots of creams, flowers, witchy prints, and tea cups. These are my life!).

Trying To Calmly React/Explain

I swear that sometimes I have to try not to loose my eyes in the back of my head when someone asks "are you in a play?" Or "Are you little bo peep?" Or dealing with sneaky picture takers. With the paparazzi I usually easily enough dip my parasol so they will only get my legs, it usually does the trick. For the people who don't want to understand and try to get a rise out of me I will usually just say they are just clothes and try not to say innappriate things questioning their original thinking or their ability to think at all. This is, of course, if they're the more rude sort and not people genuinely curious.

Personally, I feel like I'm not the only one who feels this way about a lot of these issues. I try to be reasonable and not go overboard for my love of this fashion and take care of my pieces to the best of my ability. But if you'd like to read more on this topic you can definitely read what other frillies find difficult about this fashion, down below.

Saturday, September 16, 2017

LBC: Create A Coord Based On A Tea Cup

This week's topic is definitely a favorite of mine because, I'm going to be honest, I love tea cups!

That's right, your's truly, loves tea cups and tea pots and all things related to tea Time. It's definitely part of why I choose the name for this blog, my brand, and have sought after several particular tea time inspired prints. Funny enough, I have acquired two of those very particular pieces I have had my googly eyes on and oddly enough both in two of my preferred color ways, mint green.

Innocent World Tea Time underbust jsk and Alice and the Pirates Tea Time Nostalgia jsk II for those curious

And again, oddly enough, I will not be using either in my post today with the exception of mentioning that I've magically gathered them. It's simply not the right manner of happenstance because I had, without realizing it, managed to coordinate my last outfit to one of my tea cups for a friend's birthday tea (yes, I went to an afternoon tea birthday with my tea cup in toe, and yes I try to coordinate my tea cups to my coord, I've been bringing tea cups with me for years).

So, without further ado, here it is:

Jsk/underskirt/blouse: Alice and the Pirates
Bonnet: Triple Fortune
Socks: Innocent World
Rings/Cameo: antique
Headdress/rosette chain: The Bloody Tea Party
Shoes: Offbrand
Tea cup: Aynsley 

Prior to moving here I had to give up a few of my pieces and came down with only about 6 tea cups, the first my mother ever gave me and a few other pretty ones. And when I settled a bit I found a wonderful lady who tends to know my preferences. Sometimes I pick up cute pieces that are a little newer like this one and sometimes I'll manage to snag a glorious Victorian piece or two, it's a wonderful mixed bag, and my collection is turning out to be as colorful as my wardrobe. 

Do you have a tea cup collection? 

That's it for this week's edition of the Lolita Blog Carnival! I have to say it was very refreshing for me and made it a bit easier for me to get out what I wanted to say. 

If you want to see other fabulous coords for this week's topic you can find them in the links below:

Friday, August 25, 2017

LBC: Create An Unconventional Meet And It's Itinerary

I'm back!

It's been a bit of a wild few months, I've been running amok trying to fill witch bonnet orders, work on one of my many prints (I am learning photoshop because I am an idiot and not an artist but I wouldn't be able to sit still while someone works on this particular print), expanding my tea cup collection, and of course going to and fro to meets.

And speaking of meets, I just vended at my first event for my local comm's J Fashion Mega Meet. I meant to blog about it before but I goofed and was night and day crafting and sewing for it. It was quite splendid!

Anywho, back to the topic in question, which also involves meets, unconventional meets at that, I have one or two that I'm quite willing to do but for now I will write about this one:

Exhibition Meet

In truth, I've already got all the info squared away on this particular meet as I have been planning to host it for a while but it has come down to scheduling and pricing.

The idea behind this is for members of the local frilly community to be able to demonstrate their skills and talents. Everyone from musicians, performers, designers, and artists would be able to showcase their abilities, this sort of event would give the proper platform for it.

This sort of event is simple and small enough to do on a small scale and can be done in a variety of places. The main necessity is enough space for seating and space for instruments. The way I initially planned it out was to host it in a location that already has ample seating and a working, tuned, piano, if there is even a sort of stage area that makes things run even better, though not necessary. There simply needs to be space to separate artists and performers from those seated with comfort. It's never good to scrunch.

One of my dreams for this type of event was to host it in a style very similar to Victorian exhibitions so I've hoped to hold it somewhere with a sort of similar decoration, great for pictures. Another great aspect in many of the locations I've looked into actually host afternoon tea services as well, which I think also adds to the experience as well as feeds guests.

However, the most important part of the event would, of course, be the entertainment which would be carefully be prepared by the guests themselves. Each piece would require approval up until 2 weeks prior to the meet but at least 2 months to submit beforehand. The next part would be to order all of the exhibitionists into a comprehensive schedule, allowing sets that require more break down time towards the end or seamless model transitions to have the time they need.

All of the performances would occur while the tea service - in my version of this meet there would be a tea service- was being done, that way people could enjoy delicious sweets while they watched. This also keeps the event from being bogged down or making people eat and then watch performance after performance. It also allows everyone a segment of time (approximately 6 minutes each) to present something special without having to be restricted in a total production set up. It is a much more relaxed atmosphere to enjoy.

And as for what is considered for a set it really can be anything. There of course would be musicians and vocalists, actors and dancers, and artists too, but there could be a ventriloquist, magician, or poets, designers would be able to have segments for 2-4 models to walk, and all that would be required is taking the venues space into consideration - usually a place with good lighting and semi-decent acoustics - and people would have to submit previous works to be approved for a time slot.

This sort of meet does take a TON of work, do not get me wrong, but I really think it would be wonderful to host this sometime soon. It's certainly in my books for the future. I'm sorry if I rambled a bit in this post, I haven't written in a while and I figured to just put something out.

This post was brought to you by the Lolita Blog Carnival and this weeks topic! If you want to read someone else's unconventional meet ideas check them out in the links below!

Friday, April 21, 2017

LBC: What Would You Like To See For The Future Of Lolita Fashion

There has been quite a few changes within the fashion over the last few years, some good while others heartbreaking. The world is changing in lolita fashion, like many others, growing and augmenting itself with trends and elements of personal preference, that one may not know where it's going next. There are a few things though that I would like to happen within our fashion.

❤️More Lolita Fashion Centered Cons❤️

Over the last few years we have had wonderful opportunities such as the likes of Rufflecon and Street Fashion Europe, I would love to see more of these sorts of cons. Even though there are a ton of little details and steps that go into them, and they are seriously time consuming, to me they are worth every bit of it. They bring together a bunch of frillies in one place for what should feel like a magical weekend with gorgeous and superbly thought-out coords, great venders, and wonderful guests. Not only all the super OTT fab feels but it also gets people a stronger sense of community. Who doesn't want to have more opportunities for a fairy tale weekend centered around a fashion they love?

❤️Stronger Media Output❤️

Recently, many have learned about the loss of our beloved Fruits, GLB, and how Kera is moving to online publishing, leaving us all without the ability to find many of our favorite brands released in one cute little package. It's a really sad time for many of us but I think there are some things we can do to ease that. It wouldn't be totally the same, of course, but having groups or blogs that are easier to access for the community with a great deal of content from all over the world would be great. Posts like tutorials, brand updates and shoots, con info would be easy staples that most bloggers can provide but getting groups of people to do it would help create excellent content. (I know a few of my favorite bloggers and vloggers have been upping their posts lately and I think it's great! I should endeavor to do the same and write a bit more...)

❤️Better Representation In The Media❤️

This is one thing that I think is super important going forward. We do not fall in with the status quo and wear those stupid little polos and tshirts a lot of people seem to be handed at birth, and the media tend to craft us into these detached oddities that can't handle reality because of it. This sort of "reporting" on our community happens often. Even with groups lumping us in with fetish enthusiasts and not listening to a single thing the person being interviewed has said. We do have some people who actually do their job and even dare to go so far as to walk in our shoes by experiencing the frills for an afternoon. There should absolutely be more pieces like that.

All in all, I would like to see our fashion and community grow stronger as a whole. We have social media outlets that connect thousands of strangers with the same interest across continents and I truly wish to keep this wonderful thing we have going. 

If you're looking to check out more on this topic, feel free to check out the posts from other lolita fashion bloggers below.

Saturday, April 8, 2017

LBC: What Do You Believe Is Important To Make A Cohesive Coordinate

Lolita fashion is an ever evolving style with different substyles and trends with enough rules to make a headmistress blush. Okay, so it's not actually that harsh but there are quite a few basic rules within the fashion that actually aides to create unique and cohesive coordinates without that much fuss. Aside from adhering to the rules, I believe there are simple things that make an excellent coord without having to buy the entire set. (Not saying this is bad, there is just more then that.)

♠️Attention And Focus On Details♠️

There are so many intricate details within a garment with Lolita Fashion that you don't want to just focus on one. It's very easy to take features of a printed jsk or op and incorporate it into the rest of the outfit and with solids possibilities abound. Sometimes it's the little things people will focus on that I find I really enjoy in a coord, like the choices of fabrics the use, sometimes choosing to use certain types of cottons with silks or crepes. 

❤️Hair And Make~Up❤️

This is another thing I've found super important is hair and make~up. There is the usual bangs and curls or mermaid waves that is very prevalent within the fashion but there are many other hair styles that I find can really pull an outfit together. And make~up, when going out or to a meet,  just polishes off the look and can be equally fun to do. Experimenting with both can really change up the feel of a coord and deriving inspiration from different things, like history, can really bring together a look.


These kind of go hand in hand with paying attention to detail but there is a something I feel needs a bit of attention on it's own. Planning accessories needs a balance. Most times you need more and not very often in this fashion do you need less and sometimes it's got to be said that that small adorable spider ring just doesn't fit in with the skulls and bones when it's not even in the print even if you are wearing a creepy themed coord. 

There are actually quite a few other things I'd like to add but for this post I'd like to leave it off here. I think many of us could possibly write a book about cohesive coordinates and what makes them so and I'd love to hear what you think does too. (Feel free to leave it in the comments)

Check out the other frillies who weighed in on this weeks topic on the Lolita Blog Carnival in the links down below. If you would like to join in on the fun please check out the description in order to join on the FB page's link, here

Friday, March 31, 2017

LBC: What Was It Like When You Made Your First Lolita Purchase

With a lot that is happening within Lolita fashion and the international community as a whole - things like Kera moving to digital and our beloved GLB suspending - it has brought me to reflect on things like how I got into lolita. Things like becoming a part of the community, making my first purchases, and finding more to this wonderful frilly world then just the Frills. So I'm taking a glance back on not just my first purchases but what the community was like around that time.

Admittedly, I made my first purchases out on the fringe of the community from two separate sellers on eBay (I know cringe!) but this was back in something like 2007. I was already super paranoid about shopping online and buying from people I didn't know so i tried to uncover as much as I could about ratings and tags. We didn't really have the resources we have now with Lolibrary, nor the now far gone HelloLace, and without understanding LJ yet I had gone it alone, but in the end they were very good purchases. It wasn't until I had paid that I decided to jump into the livejournal community.

I tried to read as many rules as I could, group descriptions and the like, but there were more things to check out on LJ then. Every few hours someone would create new content and hide it away behind cuts (which I would fail at nearly every turn to work properly!). It was truly hoping on that particular platform and in my nervousness I stayed to the sidelines with maybe a comment here or there and joined as many relavent comma as possible, including the sales comm.

The only thing that was lacking in any way for me during that time was my tiny states home comm. It seemed at the time like I had missed out and I was too nervous to post to see if anyone was still around. Even though I was lucky enough to live near another states comm I had no real way of getting there as I had no car and really spent all my money on brand. So, as I had little options I simply kept watch on the sidelines as a not to rowdy peanut gallery until I mustered up the courage to  post on the old webpage and found a friend to be frilly with.

As for my first purchases, they were easy enough. Since they were both from eBay I knew vaguely how to work it and knew I could get some protection from it. I even made offers on both pieces, which were accepted, and I had super speedy delivery times for both. For some reason I knew more about checking authentication on brand pieces then navigating a community that I only discovered within weeks of each other. To be completely honest though, I would not have changed my experiences very much with the exception of discovering the lolita community earlier on LJ and getting the courage to post sooner.

So this is simply one of a few reactions to this week's topic, I feel good to have even gotten that much out on it and hope you enjoyed my little blurb. If you want to check out more you can see others who participated in the links below but that's it for this week's Lolita Blog Carnival!


Saturday, February 25, 2017

LBC: 1 Main Piece 2 Drastically Different Looks

One thing that seems very particular to lolita fashion, with our high prized and priced garments, is that we tend to have a sort of tunnel vision with major pieces. Carefully and concisely planning out each aspect of our coords as we all tend to plan our expenses carefully around purchases because they can be a slightly large, unnecessary, expenditure. This is okay really, it doesn't matter if you repeat a coord to the last cross ring and rosette pinned to your pinafore jsk as long as you love it, but it's nice to get creative and change it up.

With this week's prompt we plan to do just that, taking one major garment and creating two drastically different looks with them. It allows an individual to not only be creative but to also make their garment more versatile with what they have. I liked this prompt because I wear my garments daily and don't tend to like to have very casual looks but then also change it up from time to time and even make a completely new look for events. This challenge is not simply about sweet vs classic vs gothic, etc, looks or casual vs OTT, this can be making a coordinate for one style as long as it's different.

♠️Look 1♠️
Jsk: The Bloody Tea Party caged butterfly jsk
Blouse: offbrand
Jacket: offbrand
Hat: vintage
Headbow: The Bloody Tea Party
Rosette: The Bloody Tea Party (cameo: antique)
Pins: vintage
Rosette chain: the Bloody Tea Party
Gloves: vintage

This jsk is more of a classic daily wear look I've adopted. This was one of the jumperskirts I made for the label design contest at Rufflecon 2016 which I plan to have another version in my shop soon. It was originally paired with my orginal design the winged bolero (as you'll see in my next picture) it's a fairly easy print to work with with a lot of rich colors and busy butterflies amongst cages. The rouched front of the bodice gives it the look of a butterflies body, which I thought would be a cool touch. Clearly this piece can easily be over the top and creating this particular coord shows that it can be more of a comfy classic.

♠️Look 2♠️
Jsk: The Bloody Tea Party caged butterfly jsk
Winged Bolero: the Bloody Tea Party matching caged butterfly bolero wings
Blouse: The Bloody Tea Party
Necktie: Alice and the Pirates
Rosette chain: The Bloody Tea Party
Headdress: The Bloody Tea Party

For this particular coord I used an accessory again but was still able to create a completely different look. This time instead of a comfy look I went more of the regal and elegant look. Bell sleeves totally grab my attention and I love wearing them often. I had initially thought of doing a bonnet but found I had preferred the flowery headdress. Without the blouse and adding a necklace this was basically the look for one of my models for the contest. I didn't place but I really do enjoy the winged bolero look.

Saturday, February 4, 2017

LBC: Frillies You Find Inspirational

This week in the Lolita Blog Carnival we wanted to take a look at the people in the fashion, whether well known or local, whom we find inspirational. Over the years of being in the fashion, attending cons, tea parties, small meets, and even trekking the land of livejournal and Facebook I have learned to connect and be inspired by a great deal of different individuals. Some on my list I have been fortunate enough to have meet and hang out with at events or tea parties, which I am greatful to have the chance too.

❤️Sheri Branson ❤️

In all honesty every time I see her I'm just inspired and feel so happy. She is a wonderful creative individual and such a treat to talk to. Sheri always has such creative coords and a great mix of brand and handmade (one of the times I had gotten to see her again she had made bear head frames for her glasses, for her tea party coord,  because she is all about that's kumya kumya-chan!). She is definitely someone I look up to who is sweet and a sweet lolita and just makes some of the most neat things. (Honestly, she is such a nice person!)


This girl always amazes me with her coords! Since the day I first saw her she has wowed me me with her coords and another sweety. Her style is more gothic from what I usually see her in and I just really enjoy her style.


This kid has epic written all over her! Her style is always too notch and spans both her lolita and ouji styles. The attention to detail in everything she coords in great and she just slays in every look! Her style preference ranges from gothic to classic but I've seen her sweet lolita styles as well, and just everything really looks good on her. And I'm not going to lie, every time I run into this kid she is hilarious and just such a fun person to be around.

♣️ Victorian Rabbit♣️

Every coord that this lady wears amazes me. She's lovely and I truly enjoy looking at her coordinates.  Victorian Rabbit tends to wear more of a delicate classic style with just a hint of sweet to it, giving her a very fairy tale look.


Every time this girl posts a coord it just makes me want to throw some cute things on my body! But then I realize I am now way as cute as this her. She always has such cute coords and I really enjoy what she puts into them, she just seems to have an ease to creating really cute coords.

All of these individuals are really fabulous and make me want to gear up and rush to my sewing machine and make something cute to throw on. And all of these people on this list are just a few of the frillies who inspire me, I believe I've done this type of post once or twice before, this just really expands on it a bit.

If you want to read about more inspirational frillies, I suggest you take a peek at the other bloggers who took part in this week's Lolita Blog Carnival in the links below.

                                                                     Vanilla Bear
                                                             Pépins de Pom & Co.
                                                                      Poppy Noir
                                                Cupcake Kamisama's Lolita World

Sunday, January 29, 2017

LBC: What Would You Change About Your Wardrobe

Hello all you fabulous frilly people out there! It's been quite a year so far...and I shall honestly dive deeper into this frilly world of fashion.

As of late, I've been pondering over my wardrobe. What things mesh well, what makes my day, and what has me questioning why I bought them. I also find when I evaluate my wardrobe it helps me better understand what is a want and what is a need and what I should really let go of.

So, if I were to take a quick look at my wardrobe and not get distracted by all the lovely frills within I find an array of colors and prints that I've picked up over the course of the last 10 or so years. I have plenty of colors to work with and over the last two years, thankfully, been focusing on the purchases involving blouses and, for once, brand socks. I usually prefer tights and stockings to coord with my wardrobe pieces but I'm finding the weather is better permitted to socks. But what is it that I should really focus on?

I'm finding that I need to go with maybe more solids and florals lately, not simply for my adoration of classic but it's simply how I've been feeling more lately. I have only a few eye~catching sweet pieces but they've always been of a more mixed style, like the wine colored Kumya~chan Trick~or~Treat jsk. Basically, if I'm heading into Sweets~ville, population: me, I should always endeavor for the darker hues or the colorways that can be dubbed that mixed style classic/sweet.

Another thing that I should focus on is perhaps skirts, different cut black and cream blouses, and vests. Recently, I have picked up a few Triple Fortune skirts and find I really enjoy the vested look. If I could make myself a few vests in different styles it would benefit my wardrobe, for sure.

If I were to think about taking out anything at all, which is very difficult for me as I've grown attached, would be to rid my wardrobe of any pale blues. I don't have a great deal of blues but I'm finding I'm not feeling it, sadly.

If you want to take a peak at the other wonderful frillies who took up this past week's topic for the Lolita Blog Carnival, you can catch them in the links below. And if you wish to learn more about the LBC in general, or care to join, be sure to look at the description listed in the groups facebook, here.

                                                        It's Witchcraft!