Sunday, September 29, 2019

LBC: What Are Some Things You Feel Shouldn't Be Asked Anymore

Every now and then, particularly over the summer, our dear fashion community tends to have a influx of questions that have been asked...since even before I got into the fashion. This has led to many shaking their heads, confused as to why some have not done a simple google or page search, and sometimes memes and lolita secrets posts of frustration (are there still secrets?). So, for some of us in the Lolita Blog Carnival we are sharing a list of things that do get asked that we really think should be left to the google bar, not the community en masse.

"This search bar can be your friend" ~ Momoko, Kamikaze Girls (true story)

I want to add that these are only opinions of what should not be asked anymore, they feel like they are a given, especially if you've done research. If you are trying to wear the fashion as an able~bodied individual there are very little limitations on how you can wear the fashion. This fashion has staple things that make up what lolita is: a petticoat, head piece, dress/skirt, a blouse, socks of some type, and a boat load of accessories, which differentiate it from other fashion styles.

<3 Is it wrong to have tattoos/piercings in lolita? <3

There are tons of people who are very visibly showing off their tattoos and piercings. These other forms of self expression are parts of us, even if you can remove a piercing for a few hours. They do not diminish the look unless you, if you are one with said things, aren't feeling it that day. This fashion is not a strict job that you may get your piercing stuck on equipment (the only valid reason to remove jewelry).

<3 Do I have to wear a petticoat? <3

It's a part of what makes the fashion's very specific silhouette and has been asked almost every summer, so it's not difficult to search and find TONS of posts for. 

<3 Do I have to wear a lolita blouse/bolero/cutsew? <3

Weather is the only other exception.

If someone, who had already grasped the basics of the fashion, were to ask for a specific coord and were trying something like ero it would be the only valid time to ask. There are some exceptions but it's a general 'it's part of the fashion' that somehow still gets asked.

<3 Is it wrong to sew pieces for my wardrobe? <3

Join us!

This question could be searched through google and then ping several different fb groups dedicated to sewing the fashion. This is one, Pintucks & Lace.

<3 Can you wear ::insert item or device required for living a functioning life:: in lolita? <3

I feel like most people who ask this question are either being bullied into thinking they can't participate or are people trying to stir up a ruckus. 

<3 Has anyone heard of ::insert cover store for Milanoo here::? Are they safe to shop? <3

This one always seems hardest to navigate because sometimes people find it from the internet and don't think to look on any saved lists, or the name may have changed. Milanoo fronts have been infuriating the community for ages, in different forms, and wont let up any time soon. I do think these sort of questions shouldn't be asked anymore but I can understand the occasional slip.

<3 Are replicas okay? <3
Taken from Hae Nuli's fb page.


But to put words behind my resounding 'no'...This fashion is seen as a means of self~expression and creativity, there are those pushing the envelope every day to make this fashion more lovely and intriguing. There are prints that people work painstakingly long hours on, there are those who try to come out with new designs that meet the style with a little dash of their own personality, stealing their ideas is art theft. This community tends to close ranks on those who try to steal other people's ideas, which I think is good. 

True, there are things that are close in style for dresses, there are only so many ways to cut a piece of fabric to make a garment, but it's different if you are making it exactly the same. That not only hurts the designers but staunches creativity. 

This fiasco was a nightmare! I even remember their staff grabbing at my dress and inspecting it when I told them it was handmade, the year prior to this incident. I'm glad they didn't get a hold of my designs.
I know that people may say that it may not be fair for people in different life positions but there are other ways to go about it. There are so many wonderful things in this fashion, different designers at different prices, sizes, colors, cuts, find things on the cheap on Lacemarket or sales pages, and you can even sew your own pieces so it befuddles me as to why someone would stunt themselves over one garment or specialty item.

To harp on, this community has been frowning on replicas for a very long time, this is not a new concept. It doesn't take that much to google, or search the group, to see that it's been discussed at length.

To long, didn't want to read: there is no excuse and this shouldn't be asked. 

<3 Is there an age limit to wear this fashion? <3

Anyone can wear this fashion.

Fashion does not have an age limit to it, it’s not a kiddy ride. There are so many active wearers of the fashion of different ages that this answer should be obvious. People who truly enjoy the things they love grow with them, we morph and bloom, and it's beautiful.

Thankfully, these days, we have to tell people that these sorts of questions are best left to Big Sisters of Lolita Fashion as the RC mods have made all posts require approval. It seems that we will have less easily questions answered, and a lot of the new RC questions have been really nice discussion promoting questions or ones about personal experiences, which are rather enjoyable. Hopefully, this trend will continue on. If you wish to find out more about the Lolita Blog Carnival you can check out our facebook page, here

Wednesday, September 25, 2019

LBC: Share Your Top 5 Wishlist Items & What Draws You To Them

Most everyone has a top five wishlist in this fashion, pieces that they would throw down their wallets for. It’s one of the interesting facets of this fashion that, no matter where you are from or what brand, there are certain pieces or dresses that speak to you on a magical level. This week on the Lolita Blog Carnival we discussed what pieces were at the top of our own lists.

Metamorphose - Magical Artifact jsk

This was SO on point for me. This cat looks like my fuzzy baby, Moo, and I need this jsk so badly. I do want it in the red but...I may cave if I don’t see it soon and get the green colorway but I can’t help wanting the red. There isn’t a thing I don’t love about this particular print though, everything is great and my goth side of my aesthetic.

Metamorphose - Secret Laboratory jsk/long jsk/op

We all know I have been hunting for this dress since it came out. I missed the reservation, and then it was in the wind! I have never, not once, seen this print in the red colorway and it drives me bonkers...pray for me...

Alice and the Pirates - Night in the Devil’s Castle jsk I

 This print is the fairytale that speaks to my heart the most, even though it’s not a fairytale at all. Give me maidens spirited away by otherworldly beings any day and I will be a very happy Hatter. I like the print on it’s own but why I enjoy this particular cut is the large bow neckline, giving it a sweetheart cut and being printed on with flowers. I like this particular colorway because it’s very sharp and slightly blood moon like. Hopefully one day it will be in my wardrobe.

Triple Fortune - Victorian Violets

 I know what you’re all thinking, ‘Madeline...this is neither red nor a witchy print...” but the thing that I love flowers and flower language and this is one of the main reasons I love 3F pieces so much. They are covered in flowers and sometimes scrolling notes and butterflies, another favorite. This dress has had me looking high and low for years and I regret not buying it when it was at Rufflecon but I was a little distracted and didn’t even get to see it.

Alice and the Pirates - Black Cat, Witch, & the Apple Tree jsk II

And, of course, the ghost with the most, Black Cat, Witch, & The Apple Tree jsk II, from Alice and the Pirates. I simply adore this print! I have it in the ivory after two friends of mine pointed it out and on the Usagi Youhinten website before it’s shop went out of business and I was so happy with it. It is one that I wouldn’t mind catching all the colorways but the red is what I’m after in my heart. It’s so vibrant, without being jarring, and the details of the print are great, the neckline is something I really enjoyed about this series as well, the triple ruffle adding a nice accent.
Most of my wants are almost all in the red colorways of the series, there’s just something about them. If someone were ever to release a crimson colorway for a butterfly jsk I would be very much putting that on this top five wishlist. Also most of mine are witchy prints. Even in my own indie brand I have been working on mostly witchy or occult vibe prints because it’s the jam to my scone and cream.

What are some of your wishlist items?

If you would like to check out what others have on their own wishlists then check out the links below. (And if you are looking to rid yourself of any of these pieces I will shameless suggest you drop a line in my inbox. XD Cheers!)

Monday, September 16, 2019

LBC: Create A Coord Based On A Book

If there is one thing I love just as much as frills and tea is books and stories. I can easily forget the world and delve into any, for hours if I'm not careful. Lately, I've been having this issue of losing myself but in writing the pages of my own story. It's not something I ever thought I would be doing but here I am. For this weeks Lolita Blog Carnival we're creating coords inspired by books and so I am very excited for it. It's always so difficult for me to choose when it comes to these types of topics so I went with my gut instinct. The last time I did this I did a coord based on the book The Canterville Ghost, by Oscar Wilde, one of my all time favorites.

I decided to go with basing it on The Butterfly Garden, by Dot Hutchison, something I stumbled on by accident a few years ago. It's a very good thriller that sort of starts off at the end, finding one of the "butterflies" that had been abducted to the garden, by the Gardner, being questioned by police. They have her go over how she ended up there, what it was like, and who the Gardner was and what he would do to them. The people who are turned into butterflies are tattooed with these intricately detailed tattoos and given a new namesake.

<3 Coord Rundown <3

<3 Jsk/Headdress/Butterfly Necklace (Worn on shoulders, in back): The Bloody Tea Party
<3 Underskirt: Triple Fortune
<3 Blouse/Shoes/Necklace: Offbrand
<3 Rings: Vintage, Offbrand
<3 OTKs: American Duchess

The story is well written and very dark as the main character talks of her time in the garden. She doesn't gloss over how they were kept in a big domed "paradise" of a lush garden, had everything about their new life maintained to keep up this one image of beauty. It's spin~chilling and upsetting and intense and can be difficult to handle for a laundry list of reasons. The moment a butterfly reached a certain age, couldn't fit in, whether through a disobedient behavior or get her own body to meet the demands of the Gardner, or couldn't dissociate themselves from their reality enough to put on the airs of living "a wonderful life" the Gardner would murder them and encapsulate them in the glass corridor. 

Despite how intense this book may be, for all the horrible reasons, I do suggest picking it up. The main character, Maya, is a very intriguing person that takes the reader through how she and the others with her pushed through. It had a very realistic monster, a man who thought he was their caregiver and some sort of savior, not seeing himself for what he truly was.

Everything in this coordinate is about butterflies, with the print, necklace, and headdress and I tried to add wing~like imagery anywhere I could. I used one of my indie brand's newest Butterfly jsks paired with a lightweight black top, giving it a little bit of a gossamer look. Since I do need more ruffles to this jsk I used a Triple Fortune skirt with just enough ruffles for the bottom. The other little detail I added was pinning a butterfly necklace to the back of the dress to add another butterfly but also give another dimension.

Since the butterflies were tattooed with very large wings I thought this particular piece would be appropriate for this book. It also reminds me a bit of a scene in the book where Maya convinces their abductor to let them put on a play, A Midsummer Night's Dream. She said it was to boost morale and help the newest abductee fit in but it had other purposes for the story that I wont spoil, you will have to read the book to find out more.

If you are curious about what other bloggers have written on this weeks topic feel free to check them out in the links below!