Saturday, May 23, 2020

LBC: 5 Surprise Finds You Didn't Realize You Would Like So Much

There are things in lolita fashion that we see and go "I need and want that, I love it..." and we sometimes get them and it all works out, with hopefully only a handful of regretful purchases. Then there are the things we pick up in this fashion that we're just only so~so with and find out they really suit us, compliment our wardrobes, and are so much better than anticipated. This week on the Lolita Blog Carnival, we discuss what pieces really made more of an impact in our like/love column than we'd thought.

I have a very classic and goth style heavy wardrobe, I wear a lot of hats and bonnets and incorporate a lot of antique and vintage pieces in my coords, a lot of things should feel like a no~brainer, but then there are things I'm hesitant of. There are things that I've bought on a whim, thinking that they'll do fine but not expecting such results.Then there are gifts that have made me equally unsure, almost like I'm not sure I can get them to work for me, even though they are all lovely. (I am still unsure of my coordination skills.) But time and time again, I have found myself going back to these pieces and think that I can hardly imagine going without.



I am not going to lie, I loved this jsk when I first saw it, thought it was wonderful, but was SO nervous about whether or not it would work out for me. I didn't think it would fit my style at the time, which was rather chaotic then, and was leary of everything about it because I didn't look at it and think "I need to have this!" It's turned into one of the pieces I through on often, paired with a certain overdress in this list that I had the same feelings over too, and I am so glad I got this. I wear it often and I have a great deal of fun pairing it with all sorts of accessories and head pieces. 

<3 Vintage Headdress <3


This headdress that I got in a box from my nana's neighbor ages ago. She used to wear it, as it was the style when she was younger, and I kept it for longer than I was in the fashion because it was neat. I didn't think I'd ever really wear it but I found it tucked away and tried it out and kept liking the results. I add flowers to the sides, bows, and all sorts of things, or even just wear it plan, but I've really loved the results it yields. This is definitely one of those pieces I wear very often and never thought I would.

<3 Recipe For The Endless Dream Shirly Jsk <3


This jsk exceeded expectations. I did not like the cut very much, as high~waisted dresses never seemed like they would flatter me, and even still I feel the need to alter them and make them natural waisted, but I've feel I dress them well. I also LOVE when I can make them look a little more regency era styled, as dresses then tend to be cut this way, wearing less poof does fit well. I've found I've worn these, and ones in the same cut, more than I had ever anticipated.

<3 Vintage Hat <3



This hat, one of my purchases from my favorite antiques dealer, has been used far more than I had ever thought I'd wear it. When I'm in any coord that has a lot of black or some grey in it I tend to throw this on and it feels like it fits nicely. I added a floral pin to it and it worked out really well, and sometimes I add other little pins or fabric to make it match more, which is always fun and nice. Didn't expect I would use this one nearly as much as I do, at all.

<3 Fan+Friend Overdress <3


Can I make an ode to an overdress? Because I have feelings for this piece. It's glorious, comfortable, and - if you've checked out my instagram, you've seen it in countless coords - one piece I wish I had in all the colors. I may need to hunt down black and white, or just ones that are similar, but this is very much a staple for me. I know I've mentioned it's comfortable but it really is and looks so pretty with so many pieces, I can't get over it. It was a gift from Sweet Okashi and I can't get over how amazing it is, though I was doubtful how often I'd wear it at first (SHAME ON ME!).

So these are my top 5 surprise pieces that I loved more than simply liked more than I thought I would. If you are curious about what others have put up on their lists and would like to read what they've thought of their pieces, initially, you can check out their posts in the links below!










Sunday, May 17, 2020

Purgatorio Day One & Two!

Hello all! I'm late! I'm late! With a very important update!

This is a strange update, so very last minute about sharing this here, but I'll be hosting a panel about afternoon tea in relation to lolita fashion for Paradiso's virtual meetup - Purgatorio!


Yesterday was already a wonderful endeavor, there was a virtual fashion walk with so many lovely coords and people, there were some great panels, and today is the last day, which I will cap off before the closing notes. I hope to see you there.


I did dress up for it, and in theme to some of the images of Purgatory, and today I will also be doing so.


I had a tough time deciding what would be a good coord, I already had an idea of what I wanted to doll myself up for my own panel, and fell into this slightly Hellish piece. I felt it was a good option as, even though it was dolls, souls were left to be 'dissected' and weighed before their judgement, while in Purgatory. The overskirt is a Triple Fortune overskirt that I thought gave it a nice 'veiled from the other side' look to it. Alright, we all know I'm a dork.


I absolutely threw on The Witch's Bonnet for that witchy vibe. And I tried for a slightly more hollowed makeup look that I think really work well for my unfortunate permanently bruised under-eyes (thanks genetics). 

My panel is Afternoon Tea in Relation to High Fashion at 7pm est, and will cover everything from past experiences, reception, what should be expected, and a lot more. I've also made the mistake of making tea time food...Hopefully, you'll find my panel informative and fun.

Anyway, you can watch the panels that have already happened on demand, but there are still so many that are about to begin in 15 minutes! Check us all out! 



Friday, May 15, 2020

LBC: Have A Friend Or Spouse Make A Coord For You

Our wardrobes are something many of us believe are very personal. We curate and alter them to our whims and needs and fancy them when we've brought in something new. It's for ourselves that we dress, our own entertainment. But this week for the Lolita Blog Carnival we've brought a little entertainment and interests to others and have someone else put together a coord for us.


I admit that this is the second or third time in my many years I've been in this fashion to do this. I don't really know why, as it's fun and interesting to see what other people would do. Anywho, I decided to take an interesting turn and go with MY MOM! She knows the fashion, I know she wants to wear the fashion and I'm just trying to get those last little pushes to get her to commit, and I can talk to her for hours while being frustrated with her trying to pick out a pair of socks. (We went through so many and I know I told her there was only 3 pairs of star socks that were applicable and showed her. But would she listen? NO!) XD

This ended up a pile on the floor of some of the viable options.
Tidied for my sanity and this photo.
It took a bit but eventually we settled on a dress, she went between classic and goth. The only despute really being mom doesn't like lighter colors and at first boxed herself in with an entire coord I wear fairly frequently. I only encouraged her to style the look differently and it ended up going completely South from the original idea.

The INSTANCE she said the one I took in the Michael's
flowers I knew she meant this one. She really liked this
look.
So. My mom took a totally different route, went with a more goth piece from my own little brand. This dress was something she was really impressed with considering she and I both know I'm awful at art. She loved the idea of it, how the cut came out, and the colors. The neck part was she was set on a vest and high collar blouse, that was actually decided by her BEFORE the dress and then she remembered this dress. Finding the right blouse was what caused another mess.


The funniest and frustrating part of this was how I only further proved to myself that I need cute storage units to put my blouses in. They were all neatly folded on the shelf and, after rummaging through them to find the right blouse, they all ended up on the floor. Even with a step stool I'm too short to reach. And then my mom told me to clean my room...I'm not even going to tell you how hard I laughed at her or how many years it's been since I last was told. It was so clean before this video chat...


The next thing was jewelry and headwear. She really wanted to keep to more classic styles and have less jewelry worn, siting the rules of 'less is more,' and chose far less than I would usually wear but thought something could be added to the hat that I didn't think she would pick. She actually loved this hat over the other vintage pieces and we decided that I should add something to draw color in to the coord for balance.

Just a quick addition.
Back to the sock. Not only did it have us going back and forth and her hyper-focused on stars socks I only wished I had, we actually found this nice pair of pinstripes that she thought would work perfectly. 


The only other things left was doing hair and makeup, which I did myself. She said something akin to what I usually do, or that semi-Gibson Girl look. For the makeup, I feel like I knocked it out of the part and had maybe too much fun making my eyes do this. Getting that even undereye is so worth it but took so long! My mom 


The other hilarious thing about this, aside from the sock fiasco, was having my clothes chosen by my mother. She hasn't really done that since about the middle of elementary. I mean, she would be picky about what clothes I COULD wear, easily enough buying what she liked, so it wasn't complete free reign. And because I chose my mother for this endeavor I realized just how picky she actually is. Mom does love lolita fashion and would absolutely dive into aristocrat and goth if she had the chance (DO IT YOU COWARD!). She knows the brands and has always been supportive of my clothing choices, but always gravitates towards darker hues. She is hilariously opinionated about it and isn't a huge fan of sweet lolita (Though I am JUDGING you for liking my chocolate quartet coord, ma! SO MUCH JUDGEMENT!...doesn't like sweeter styles, my frilly a22! So sweet it involves chocolate in name and print.)


So the end results turned out pretty close to what I wear usually, but I had to stop halfway and question her as to whether or not this is what she would wear. She did straight up say that if she fit these clothes she would. I told her there was plenty of size options, so maybe ONE day. (And maybe one day I'll get this series back into a printing company to print properly, with all it's missing details, and can just make her one.

<3 Coord Rundown <3
<3 Jsk: The Bloody Tea Party
<3 Blouse: Innocent World
<3 Necktie: Putumayo
<3 Vest/Tights: Off brand
<3 Jewelry/Hat: Antique, vintage, The Bloody Tea Party (star bracelet)

If you're curious to see what other people came up with for this post you can check out their links below.






Friday, May 8, 2020

LBC: How Do You Enjoy The Fashion In Your Own Time

Honestly, lolita fashion has given me such joy in life. This may sound silly considering what conceptions of lolita and lifestyle lolita are, in particular, but when it came to clothes it was that certain something I had always been looking for. The idea that there was something elegant and lovely between Victorian era and historical fashions with a modern twist existed gave me a spark for life. It's small and simply and, at the very same time, not at all. This week, with the Lolita Blog Carnival, we explore how we individually enjoy the fashion in our own time.


In life we all have certain responsibilities, things that either prevent us from dressing as we wish, most of the time. I've lucked out in the past with my job in antiques stores that the owner has allowed me to wear whatever I've wanted, siting that the frills I tend to wear have really been something to behold. One other staff couldn't stop laughing and saying that it was just too fitting a style and kept psyching herself out while debating finding something that would actually suit her. (She's still toeing that line and, these days, says she wished she had took the leap. She is so close to picking out a classic lolita style skirt from a brand off taobao.) So I do get to wear frills at work and at home. I am lucky and privileged in this.


When it comes to how I enjoy it, in my own time, it's honestly a very relaxed thing. I find the only stressful thing about it is actually committing to an outfit for the day, weather and mood being the only real factors. When I don't have to go anywhere, or do much of anything, I immediately will crack out my tea cup and pot and maybe plate a bit of fruit or a dessert I've saved up for something special. Lately, even as I type this out, I'm on my porch looking out into the green that has sprung from my backyard. Being home daily I have looked and waited for the verdant leaves to come back into it's full glory, so that I may picnic and get some fresh air.


My picnic includes a small cake (that's truthfully too large for me), macarons, a poorly made scone, the sweetest strawberries I have ever tasted, and nutella and banana covered french bread, all paired with a berry tea that I'm enjoying while I alternate between reading The Beauty Spot, by de Musset, and doing some beadwork for a new necklace. I'm head to toe in pink frills, donning my first Triple Fortune bonnet, my pink tea dress I made ages ago, and even have out my pink handkerchief. If I were to ever feel anything like a pointless and out of touch aristocrat or royalty, it would be now, whiling away my hours on my little porch, listening to the sounds of the birds and orchestral music. I don't think people are allowed this much peace, when normal or sneaking away for a few hours.


It's not necessary normal for me, either, not with out an extreme concerted effort. Usually, it's tea at my table, no makeup or wigs, and writing away my hours for a job no one will ever be able to track down connections to me through. (It's nothing nefarious, but I'm not a very good writer, though I do try to be articulate.) But having moved, having this absolutely glorious weather, and trying my hardest to self-isolate during this pandemic, it has afforded me more of these moments.

Minor bouts of gardening may happen, from time to time.
(Mostly, just watering or checking for spots.) 

When it comes to the community, in the past, I have had the wonderful opportunity to engage with some of the most amazing and thrilling people, but I have easily been able to endure on my own. Thankfully, this community of ours seems to be thriving and engaging online with virtual meets and events and I've been able to see people more, though I miss in-person interactions with my more dear friends I have made through the comm. But, again, I have endured. The fashion is something I enjoy daily, and have been able to do so on my own, enjoying the little things. I hope that one day things will be able to return to meets where we get to go to historic mansions, tea parlors, and having people over to enjoy good food and the sounds of friends laughing and chatting.


If you'd like to read more, and learn how other's enjoy the fashion on their own time, you can check out their posts in the links below. If you are interested in joining us in the Carnival you can apply by answering the questionnaire on FB. You're blog has to be 3 months old, with 9 posts on lolita fashion. Your blog also has to be focused mainly on the fashion, but you simply have to add English, along with your native language, to your posts for the LBC, as it is an English based group.